According to me and my experience I am Suggesting that everything happens for good suggests that there's some driving force making bad things happen for a good reason. To believe that, you'd have to believe in willfull, intelligent power driving the most horrific things that have ever happened for some greater purpose. That's an idea I find very hard to defend.
Also remember humans think about situations in relative terms, perhaps,what you are calling something bad is just a normal happening but juxtapositioned next to the high feeling of the good event it feels worse by comparison.
These are just ideas for you to test of course, but we can be pretty confident that this is an internally generated perception as it is unlikely that you have been the victim of so many coincidences. Not impossible but unlikely.
have about 20 to 30 incidents in my life let me share couple of them. All of these incidents changed my way of thinking and my way of thinking changed my life.
Incident-1:
This incident is from year 2010, I was working in WIPRO electronic city campus Bengaluru, my shift timing was 07:00 AM to 04:00 PM and I was staying in a paying guest JP Nagar 5th Phase. Everyday cab driver was arriving at 06:15 AM.
One day as usual I got call from cab driver at 06:00 AM, saying that he will be arriving at 06:15 AM sharp. I went to pickup point at 06:10 AM and waiting , he din’t show up till 06:20AM, I called him. He told he will be coming in next 10 to 15 mins, as he has another pickup in RBI layout and I am the last pickup for him. He din’t show up, I called him again around 06:40 AM. He pickup the phone and told he is already reached BTM, he can’t pick me up and I have to arrange my own transport for the day. It was pissed off, called WIPRO transport system and explained about the incident and request them to arrange other cab for me. They agreed and scheduled next login cab for me. Story doesn’t end here. The cab which left me met with accident on the electronic city flyover. Next to driver seat was completely smashed. After I saw the vehicle, I had thanked the god. What else I can do?
Incident-2:
This is in 2015 June. Me and my family went for trip to Maharashtra(Basically Theertha yatra), between me and dad sharing the driving. On 4th day on our trip we reached “Vani saptashrungi” and we were staying in Nashik. while returning back to Nashik. One biker came in front of our car and started talking to people who were standing road side(He was local person there). He completely blocked us, I honked couple of time, looks he pissed off and started shouting on me. Saying I have to wait and he will take his own time. I was angry and started argument with him. Mean while, car that was behind me went in front of our car. I got pissed off, because I put so much efforts to over take that car as the roads were narrow and it is almost impossible to overtake him for next 15 Kms. More over he was drive his car so slow. After about 2 mins + biker went with his bike towards temple. I continued driving behind that “slow car”. I was losing my patience, within 2–3 km travel another bike came in wrong of the traffic and hit the car that was in front of me. “It was accident” and biker got injured badly. Public gathered and started beating car driver for no reason. I was shocked. We were spectators. What else we can do ? We had language problem as they were talking Marathi and We were driving a KA registered car. I feel sorry for those guys.
Good luck on breaking this cycle as it would be a shame to have every positive event followed by a feeling of dread.
These words are usually followed by some kind of reassurance that we don’t ever get given more than we can handle. Although suicide and addiction rates most certainly dispute this. Still, people who say this are often well-intentioned or truly at a loss to come up with anything better. Many of them even believe it.
But bad things don’t happen for a reason. They just happen. We make the reason, often in an attempt to make the best of a bad situation.
I just don’t buy into this simplistic idea that terrible things happen with the best of intentions to improve our lives in some mysterious, yet-to-be-revealed way. Natural disasters. Global pandemics. Sudden tragedies. These things happen, but they aren’t trying to shape individual lives in a particular direction.
I can’t decide if this idea is supremely egotistical or just innocently misguided. Actually, if I consider every time I’ve ever heard it, I think it’s usually born of blind faith in unseen forces and massive ineptitude with discomfort. Let me break this down.
Blind faith plays a role. Just as past peoples once identified gods in the sky manipulating crop yields based on their pleasure or displeasure, it’s easier to attribute some sort of logic to things we don’t understand. It makes us feel better to think there’s a silver lining to the tragedies we face — like we can take back our power over the things that make us feel powerless. Sometime the other hand, I think there's the potential to take some benefit out of almost any situation, even if that situation is terrible. Now a bad situation can be all bad, it can make people weak and bitter and cause a total loss of drive and self-esteem. However, people can take bad situations and learn and grow from them, becoming stronger, more patient and more experienced. Thus, I think that everything that happens can be made into something good, if we respond to them properly.
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